A good erotic massage is like a choreographed dance performance. Like that dance, the number of unique steps that can be invented and used are limited only to the imagination of the person performing the massage. These all but infinite techniques fit into three general phases of the massage and should be geared toward reinforcing that particular phase of the process.


This is probably the most crucial aspect of the sensual massage. The purpose of this phase of the massage is to create relaxation in a nonthreatening manner. It is particularly important when dealing with a massage subject who is nervous or uncomfortable with being handled.

The heavy touch should be used on the hands and feet. These areas are the parts of our bodies that come in contact with more people and objects as we walk through our daily lives than any other area. Because of this, not only are the hands and feet generally a nonthreatening area to establish trust and acclimate a subject to contact, but the areas are tough and need the heavy touch because a lighter touch will usually only tickle.

The heavy touch is performed with the balls of the thumbs. Grasping a hand or foot with both hands, press the balls of both thumbs firmly into the palm or sole of the subject and stroke very firmly over the entire surface to the tips of toes and fingers. While people vary, the more pressure the better. For most people, they would need to deliberately try to hurt the subject for the pressure to be too much, but ask for feedback to be sure.


This is the massage style for the rest of the body. Alternating palms and fingertips to create a constant variety of sensation, use long, slow and overlapping strokes starting at the center of the body and moving toward hands and feet. This is the bulk of the massage and getting feedback is essential to ensure maximum enjoyment.


At the end of the massage, this is the icing on the cake. With a relaxed and somewhat aroused subject, the nonexistent touch can drive them to further heights of arousal. Many choose to use a tool like a feather for the nonexistent touch. Others prefer to lightly blow or breathe on the skin of subject. Either way, the goal is to create such a light sensation that the subject of the massage anticipates and strives to feel the stimulation.

Within these three phases of the sensual massage, there is enormous room to experiment. As long as a technique adds pleasure to the experience of the subject, it is a good technique.